There are various ways to settle child custody. If parents reach an amicable agreement, all the judge has to do is sign it off. If parents cannot agree, a judge will decide how to award child custody.
The division of financial responsibilities and household work in most marriages is far from even. One spouse might earn all of the household income, while the other performs all of the unpaid labor like childcare, cooking and cleaning.
Divorce can be all-consuming. You can become so focused on the immediate that you forget to consider the long-term picture. Much the same way that your wife became so concentrated on growing the business that she seems to have forgotten about you and the children.
Arizona is one of only nine community property states. As such, Arizona law holds that, generally, all assets you and your spouse acquire during your marriage become marital property that belongs equally to both of you, regardless of which of you actually acquired or paid for it.